30 [M4F] Jefferson City, Missouri — Seeking one woman for a very specific kind of relationship

Greetings.

I seek one woman for a very specific kind of relationship. I don’t expect anyone to say “Yes” immediately, let alone at all. Ask me whatever questions you may have, but here is what I want.

The relationship has four parts:

1. Monogamy

2A. Commitment, meaning “We are married until we get married …. But we don’t hold ourselves out as married, aka we don’t refer to ourselves as husband and wife.” The expectation once the relationship begins is 3.5–6 years in the future, we are getting married in a Catholic Church and we will have and raise children in the Catholic Church. We spend as much fine tpgehre

Put differently, “in the 3.5 — 6 years between the relationship beginning and our marriage in a Catholic Church, I will not break up with you, no matter what — God Forbid — terrible things may happen to you.”

I know what it’s like to have sex before marriage (Read 4.) with someone you care about, and then the person abandons you. It makes you feel used, dead inside, and so on. I will not be a hypocrite.

The only exceptions are if you (or I, these rules apply to me too) —

1. Cheat — anything more than hugging someone from the opposite sex you’re not related to,
2. Commit a serious crime,
3. Addiction, namely Gambling, cigarettes, drugs,
4. Physical Abuse
5. Sexual Abuse

2B. She would also receive an allowance of at least $150.00 a month. That is separate from — meaning in addition to — me paying for both of us when going out to eat, going to sports events, museums, road trips, movies, etc.

3. Honest and Direct Communication — I won’t like it if you go off on me, but I won’t break up with you. I am autistic and I can — rarely — be dense. As a result, I’ve been yelled at hundreds of times, often with foul language. If you come within a country mile of that level of cruelty, despite me taking extreme measures to prevent that, I will not break up with you because chances are I deserved it.

Because that’s what the best couples do: they talk things out, find solutions, and move forward together.

4. Affection, including Sexual Intercourse — It’s not an entitlement to sex. Three rain checks and / or denials in a row and I will ask what’s wrong and see what we can do to fix it. I will do the same thing if I sense you don’t like it or you hate it.

Because that’s what the best couples do: they talk things out, find solutions, and move forward together.