Coparenting bummer

This problem has no solution and I know there isn’t really much I can do about it, but boy does it suck.

My coparent and I have a court ordered schedule of M-F for me and Sat and Sun for him. Pretty much this way because she’s only 1.5 and I don’t work during the week. He doesn’t work the weekends and we live 1.5hr apart.

I try to keep things civil and I try to be accommodating. The court ordered schedule is for him to give her back Monday morning. But he asked that I do it Sunday nights because it’s easier for him to not have the baby before work. No problem. So now I race from work to get her after working a 12hr and then I’m thrown into bath/beditme. Whatever, I don’t care really, I’m just happy to see her. But it’s def tough.

He scheduled a vacation during one of my holidays. I said “no biggie” and said have fun! I don’t see why I would make it harder for the other parent and say no.

Fast forward to now. A family reunion is happening on my side of the family. First one in 19 years. It’s massive and people are flying in. It’s a Saturday. I asked: “Hey can I get her Saturday and I will literally drive 4hrs back to get her back to you by that evening so you still get her that weekend”

I know it’s not my day to have her but boy does it suck when I try to be accommodating and it’s shot down. I figured he’d be worried about less time with her. I offered for him to have her extra time whenever. He said he doesn’t want to use PTO to take off. I just want my extended international family to meet her.

Again, I know theres nothing I can do. But it sucks she never gets to see even my close family ever because they work during the week and the baby is gone during the weekends when they can engage with her. Anyone have a kiddo that only sees one side of their family?