ENFJ and INTJ: dealing with obstacles in relationships

Hi, all I am an ENFJ and had a great relationship with someone with no idea how to move forward. My now ex girlfriend INTJ told me that she does not want to leave the state to come marry me after her father requested her to stay. I sort of made the decision for her to break up but I could tell she felt stuck between a rock and a hard place. We would still talk in our friends group chat but would not speak to each other directly. We had some small conversations in and out (not all pleasant) but mostly no contact.

She started to entertain a guy who tried to pursue her multiple times even when we were dating, but she shut him down after a week. I was surprised because he was local. I am going to be in her state in two weeks. We recently were on a group ft and she laughed at almost everything I said, which I found odd. I am not sure if I should reach out or if I am wasting my time. She definitely still thinks about me a lot, but I’m not sure if I am wasting my time.