I'm in an odd situation, I have recently discovered my recently ex partner is a covert narc

There are so many traits i have learned they have. I didn't see it until I was out of it and shared details of my relationship. We ate still living together due to circumstances and will be for some time.

Does anyone else feel their Narc ex still had many good qualities that sit along side their narc behaviours?

My narc ex is an amazing parent, and I feel they so care about me, but I feel they have this childish, irrational, victim complex and behaviour they can't control.

It's so complex, I have been gas lit , manipulated for years, but along side that there are parts which have been good.

I wonder if they are even aware of their actions , and how abnormal they are.

They believe they are in the right for all the silent unspoken rules , and double standards , their comstand victim complex , but I also believe they care about me in equal quantities but just can't see their floors