Any way to remember Bluetooth connectivity and not always connect?

Seems like my S23 now always captures every Bluetooth device it is paired to, even if I have disconnected it.

For example, if I want to use a speaker or headphones with my laptop, I always now have to turn on the headphones, then disconnect it from my S23, then reconnect it to my computer. If I take a break and come back to my computer I have to do that all over again even though I already disconnected the phone previously.

I want the phone to not auto reconnect when it was not the last thing used, like how it worked before some of the recent updates.

How do I fix this?