Is my mom a narcissist or am I the problem here?

This is going to be very long so I apologize and it might be all over the place. So this all started once I left my emotionally abusive ex in the beginning of the year and had to move back in with my family. Which they were so welcoming for and had no problems whatsoever and they encouraged me to leave him sooner and do this. So I left him and moved in. I also am 24 and have a full time job btw. I then found someone else and started talking to them, shortly after started dating. Now yes it may have been very soon but I also was very checked out of my last relationship for about a year before I left him. When I was with this ex I had the worst anxiety, never left the house, would constantly have panic attacks. Now with my new bf I am not sure why but I’m able to go out and do things again. He is not at all like my ex doesn’t emotionally abuse me, never has treated me horrible and is just a very laid back person. My ex was very possessive, insecure, and would say the absolute worst things someone could say when he was mad at me. Again my new bf is an angel compared to him. Back to me living at home. I started dating my new bf and my parents were all for it in the beginning. Then I started hanging out with him more and more. I can only see him on weekends as I work all week and we live an hour and a half away. So I only get to hang out Friday Saturday and come home Sunday. A few times I have left on Thursday and ever since I start doing that my mom flips out. She says I’m spending too much time with him and that it’s “disgusting” Now I have to add I have a dog. My mom has 9 other dogs and then I have my dog in the house. (Which was a puppy of her other dogs). When I moved in she said it was absolutely no problem that she watched him while I go out on the weekends because she loves him as her own and I trust her with him. Throughout this whole thing my mom has been so up and down with me going out every weekend (not even cause of the dog) just because I go out a lot. She also says I am living a “secret life” on the weekends just cause I go out when I never use to when my ex. Which is so weird to me. Another thing, she is always saying something about me ordering packages or buying stuff for myself when she says stuff like you should be saving your money and I am but she doesn’t believe me. I work 40 hours a week and I tell her I should be able to treat myself a little bit and she always has some thing to say when I have packages coming in. Now this is also something I want to mention. Once when I was at my new bfs house she had my ex boyfriend over to hang out with them and my siblings and posted a picture of them all on Facebook and that’s how I found out. And when I text them about it they said “worry about your new bf and not what we do here” which is a complete slap in my face because he was abusive and they are on his side. They said now that they live with me they said “maybe I was the problem” the whole time and it was never him. I was jn complete shock when the people who are suppose to be there for me took the side of someone who hurt their daughter. She told me her came over ti apologize and that’s why he was over but I saw texts between her and my older sister literally saying “how funny would it be to have him over and fuck with (me)” Cut to now. My mother has been so angry about me leaving and wanting me to take my dog. Okay understandable. (She only ever has a problem with watching him when she’s mad at me) But this Friday she told me that tomorrow I need to get a moving truck and be out. I’m just at a point where I don’t know if I’m the issue or she is. There is so much I left out and so much more she has done that I don’t even have time to write right now. These are just main things I can think of that I want an opinion on. I also really really apologize this post is all over I didn’t even know where to begin. Am I the problem here…