Getting meds made things worse

I’m in my 50s. In the past year, got some good therapy, got meds that help me focus and be more aware….

And now I’m super sensitive to masking. Resentful of it. Super aware of judgment from those around me where I’ve been misunderstood. Very aware that a lot of things my partner viewed as me… being a jerk, I suppose - things that now I learn are very normal - I say things the wrong way, my tone is tight or frustrated, etc. All of those blew right by me. I’m realizing I’ve spent 50 years trying to participate in a world I don’t understand, and only now begin to see it.

Challenge is my partner is unwilling or unable to acknowledge that the years of strife are at least in part her treating me as nt. I have to decide to stay with a person I’ve built a life with who is unable to see me for who I am, or start over alone in my fifth century.

How am I supposed to handle this?