Gender- scared of having a boy

Rant

Hi everyone! After 2 years of treatment and heartbreaks, I am now 22w pregnant from IVF and sooo happy for that.

Now the “issue” is that I always thought that the one bright side of going through IVF would be that I will get to chose the gender (I live in UAE where it’s allowed), as I always wanted a girl. But all our 3 viable embryos turn out to be boys… I got sad at first but then the incredible excitement of being pregnant made me over it.

But!! Since I am pregnant everybody is asking for the gender, and they are making me sad again and worried. They always express disappointment when I say it’s a boy, and I cannot count the amount of times I heard “get ready it’s going to be a lot of sport compared to a girl!!”, or “oh he is going to be naughty!” or just “best of luck..!!”. I am also hearing that once he finds a girlfriend, I will become a MIL and basically lose him, whereas girls stay close to you forever. I believe this is true given all the examples around me… All these comments have gone to my head and got me really depressed…

What do you think?

Posted Jun 15, 2025, 3:09 PM UTC

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