Just found out my boyfriend has a coke addiction need advice from people who’ve been through this

A few weeks ago, I found a small amount of coke in my boyfriend’s jacket pocket. I wasn’t actually that bothered about the fact it was there what pissed me off was that he lied to my face but I also get sometimes when being confronted that can be a panic response. He said it wasn’t what I thought and that he threw it away. I decided to let it go and give him the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe the conversation scared him enough to stop.

But two days ago, I found a lot more hidden in his work desk, this time a large amount, it was shocking, I’ve never seen that much in my life. The way it was stored and how much there was made it really obvious that this isn’t just the occasional thing, I think he’s using it daily, even while working. Also because of what happened last time when he tried to tell me it wasn’t coke, I tested with a drug deletion kit and of course it was exactly what I thought, I think I just wanted to see the black and white evidence on this. I don’t think he’s selling it either as he earns a lot of money and he’s always at home.

Then last night I went out with friends to a party (which I rarely do) and came back late. Before I left he had told me to take my key so I wouldn’t wake him but then when I got back, so I didn’t realise this would even be such an issue, he was drinking and angry, and told me he was “done” with me. I kind of snapped at that point and threw the stuff I’d found at him. I hadn’t planned to confront him like that, I actually wanted to talk about it calmly and offer support but this was all in the heat of the moment.

This morning I packed a bag and checked into a hotel for a few days to get some space. He saw me leave and didn’t say anything, and I didn’t look back.

I only recently moved in with him, and I’m here on a work visa so having drugs in the flat could seriously mess things up for me.

Just wondering if anyone here has been in a similar situation either with addiction or supporting someone through it. What actually helped you or the person you were with realise it was time to change? Is there anything I can do right now that would be supportive, or do I just need to walk away and put myself first?

Appreciate any advice