One year after she cheated.

I (30m) was cheated on by my now ex wife (29) a year ago. Here's what happened.

Fall of 2023 i lost my job. I was only working 15 hours a week, the rest of the time I was being a full time stay at home dad. When I had lost my job she told me we would be fine, (she makes good money) and so I thought things would be okay. I took care of the children, I stayed up with them at night if they woke up, she came home every day to a clean house. I noticed her acting differently. One day I got the courage to look at her phone. I didnt want to invade her privacy, but i found out her "friend" and her had been sexting, talking shit about me behind my back. Talking about how I was worthless because I wasn't providing for my family. She never brought any of these issues up with me. So when I confronted her, she told me she was going to divorce me if I remained unemployed. So I got another job. She told this guy it was over, and I thought thst was that. December of 2023 comes, and we decided to get drunk one night and reconnect. At this point we hadn't been intimate in over a year. She spends most the night on her phone talking to another guy who she said, "Don't worry about gim" "He's just a friend". She drank to much, we didnt do anything, she went to bed. As im cleaning i check her phone. The "Just a friend" and her have been hardcore sexting all night right in front of me. I mean like very detailed messages of what they would do to eachother, and pictures and videos were sent, which explained why she went to the bathroom so much. I woke her up and confronted her. She denied it, then said she thought she was texting me all night, then tried to offer me sex, and I just left. Things were tense for a while. She a few weeks later admitted she fucked up, and then blamed it on me not having a job for those 3 months I was unemployed. New years eve we finally had sex again, told eachother 2024 was going to be the year we fixed ourselves. Was that far from the truth. We spent January, February, and March having sex once a week, going on dates, exploring our sexual needs more, and I thought things were going great. In April she hit me with a curveball. She told me she was unhappy with life, with our kids, with our job, and with our marriage. I asked her to talk, I asked her to go to counseling with me, and she said no. She wanted to just get away for a week and think. Now another point to put in, around March, we talked about opening up the marriage to the point of having a threesome, and to having us sleep with someone else. I wasn't really for it. I have jealousy problems, but she was pushing me. She pushed me to agree with a threesome. And then she pushed me to agree to her fucking another man. I told her no. But she said one night I was drunk and said yes and that meant she could. So she met this guy, a 23 year old off snapchat, and left for a week in June, to spend the week with this "just a friend" and she had sex with him. She told me, in painful detail, what they did together. How much bigger he was then me. How much more her pleased her. So when she came back from the trip she told me she was done with our marriage. After she came back, I found receipts she kept that showd the sex toys they bought, I found a photo strip of them kissing, I found a love letter. My heart broke more and more. And she, to this day, claims she didnt cheat. All because we had talked about opening up the marriage a bit. I told her how I was not comfortable with any of it and she did it anyways. She still doesnt know how scary the internet can be, and that I have the video recording of them inside the photo booth in some mall making out and telling eachother I love you (Mind you, they had only known eachother for a month). And that entire week she was gone. I was home. Being the parent I have been for four year. Our youngest had a fever of 102 for a day and a half that week. She didnt care. In July of 2024, she brought him out here to spend the week with him again, and by August of 2024, the divorce was filed, I had moved out, and her new boyfriend, the 23 year old she chested on me, that she had known for only 3 months now, had moved 14 hours to live with her, and out two toddlers. (Trust me, that made things get ugly with the divorce). Now a year later, she blames me for everything. She told me all the cheating was because I didnt work for those three months. When I called her out on that she said that it stemmed from the last few years. She told me she hadn't loved me in years, she told me so many hurtful things. she constantly blames me for all her problems. And I wanted none of this. All I wanted was her. So here we are, a year later, her boyfriend and her broke up right before Christmas. Thank God thst prat is gone. Our divorce finalized at the end of May. So thats my story. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.