How big of a deal is it if a woman can’t do penetration?

Long story short, I’m (27f) asking because I have extremely overactive pelvic floor muscles, which makes penetrative sex very uncomfortable at best and downright painful at worst.

Some background: I haven’t slept with someone in a very long time – I’m talking years– because it’s never been a good experience. I’m wanting to get back into dating but a.) I have no idea how to even bring it up and b.) I’m wondering if I should even put myself out there.

Men, would this be a dealbreaker for you? I know everyone’s answer will be different but I’ve never gotten a man’s perspective on this. And I want everyone to be 100% honest but please be kind.

P.S. There are physical therapists that can help treat overactive pelvic floor muscles, but I live in the US and don’t have health insurance, so I cannot afford that right now.