I’m starting to resent my baby who doesn’t sleep.

He is 11 months old and 12 months old on Tuesday.

He has been a crap sleeper since the 4 month sleep regression, constantly waking, it got better around the 7 month mark with maybe 1 waking or sleeping through. Then around the 10/11 month mark he started waking through the night, but not just waking for a bottle and going back to sleep. He would wake and demand to be held or he would wake up and scream bloody murder the second you put him in his cot.

We moved him into his own room a few weeks ago, we thought maybe we were keeping him away and it’s been hell ever since. He is waking up every 2 hours and one of the night wakings he will be up for 2-3 hours just screaming until we have to bring him to our bed and lie with him until he falls asleep. We then have to wait 30 minutes until we can transfer him.

Last night he went to bed at 8pm, woke up at 9pm and stayed awake till midnight, he then woke up at 1 but went back to sleep shortly after. He then woke up for the day at 4.20am, nothing I could do could get him to sleep more.

He just screams and screams and screams until we pick him up. He’s had roughly 6 hours sleep and this is a nightly occurrence for him. He NEVER sleeps past 5am no matter the time he went to bed.

I’m at my wits end, I’m exhausted, my partners exhausted, we literally have no time for anything, we’re spending no time together because it’s constantly spent taking it in turns going up to him.

I’ve tried sleep training, and no matter what I do, the second I put him in the cot he will scream bloody murder and this will not stop.

Please, I need some advice because I’m really starting to dislike him and I know how bad that sounds

Just to add. He has the same routine every single night, bath, massage, pyjamas, bottle then bed. We have tried a bigger wake window before bed, a shorter wake window before bed. Longer naps, shorter naps. Nothing has helped.