My husband likes doing more for me than i do for him. Is this bound to lead to resentment down the line?

Before I met my husband I had never felt so cared for. He loves to baby me when I’m sick, make me food, clean my laundry. He expresses his love through acts of service. But he doesn’t typically prefer to be babied in the same way. When I try to just let him relax while I clean up dinner he insists on helping me. He prefers for me to show him I love him through words of affirmation. He loves a good letter. So he ends up doing the bulk of our shared labor

Sometimes I get in my head that he will resent me for this dynamic. Not often, but a couple times when we’ve had fights he’s thrown his acts of service in my face. Every time he has done that I’ve made sure to bring it up after we cool down and I ask him if he feels like too many of the household chores fall on his shoulders. But every time he has said that he didn’t mean it and wants to continue doing most of the chores. I always remind him that if he changes his mind we can talk about more equal work division but he hates that idea.

One time after a fight I really tried to step it up and not accept his service because I didn’t want him to resent me. I didn’t do it in a mean way, I just wanted to help him more. But he seemed really sad about it. He said that he really likes it when I let him do more than me because it makes him feel important.

I love coming home to a pristine house every time he’s home alone. I love his service. But does anyone have experience with this dynamic long term? My husband has a habit of resenting people, for example friends who always let him pay when he continues to offer to pay. It bothers me that he doesn’t stand up for himself and I’m worried I’ll end up on the list of people he resents. But our relationship seems to work better when I let him take on the bulk of our shared labor.

I need advice