Anxious attachment. How do I be normal.

Are there autistic women who don’t have anxious attachment? If so, tell me your tricks, wench. I am a prisoner to my racing mind, my many conclusions, my highly sensitive vibe radar, I crave reassurance desperately or I am prone to self sabotaging because I’ve freaked myself out. Does anyone here have advice on overcoming silence and slow pace in the pursuit of relationships? Tips for keeping your mind quiet and at ease?