Does the universe “test” you when you’re tuning into a new potential?

I’ve been tuning into a potential where I’m in a new, loving and healthy relationship. I understand that in order to be in a secure relationship, I need to be a secure, non-needy person myself.

I used to have terrible anxiety with women, because on an unconscious level, I saw it like a performance. Whenever I sensed a spark or met someone attractive, I’d just forget about it and later regret not doing anything.

I’ve since practiced becoming less invested in what people think of me, and being comfortable in my own skin.

For the first time, I actually went up to someone and chatted with her. Not from a cheesy place of “picking up” but simply curiosity, and wanting to know who they are as a human being.

After chatting for a bit I told her something like “hey this might sound a bit random but I honestly find you attractive. I’d love to get to know you more over coffee if you’re up for it.”

Unfortunately, she said no, she wasn’t in the right headspace for it. She did say that I seemed like a “really thoughtful, genuine person”.

I told her it’s completely understandable and wished her well.

Not gonna lie, it did sting quite a bit. Because I was quite hopeful it might go somewhere.

It made me think though, is it possible that the universe is preparing me to be the person I’d need to be, in order for my potential to manifest?

Is it possible that the girl might not be the match the universe has in store for me, but this rejection is teaching me to let go of my old anxiety-ridden reality — and to slowly embrace my new one, where I’m comfortable opening up and being vulnerable? So when my potential does finally manifest, I’m not “pretend” ready, but “truly” ready?

Anyways, sorry for this ramble. I’m mostly thinking out loud.