AITAH for telling my mom she’s the reason I don’t want to have kids..

So, my mom (F52) has been on my ass for years about giving her grandkids. I’m 28, married, financially stable by all accounts, the “perfect” time to start trying, according to her. But every time she brings it up, I shut it down. Yesterday, she cornered me at a family BBQ in front of my aunts, like she always does, and goes, “When are you gonna stop being selfish and give me a grandbaby?” Like she was asking for candy.

And I just… snappedd

I said, “Maybe if you hadn’t spent my entire childhood screaming at me for spilling milk, or guilt-tripping me for needing therapy, or making me feel like a burden for existing, I’d actually want to be a mom.”

Dead. Silence.

My aunt choked on her wine. My mom turned bright red, then stormed off to the kitchen. My dad just sighed and said, “You didn’t have to say it like that.”

But like… I did? Because nothing else was getting through to her. I’ve tried polite. I’ve tried vague. I’ve tried “We’re focusing on our careers right now.” She doesn’t listen. She just keeps pushing, like my uterus is her personal fckng project.

Now my phone is blowing up with texts from family saying I was too harsh, that she’s “just excited,” that I “hurt her feelings.” But what about my feelings? What about the fact that every time I imagine having a kid, all I can think is “I don’t want to turn into her”?

My husband says I’m not wrong, but I should apologize to keep the peace. I don’t want to apologize. I want her to get it.

So, AITA for finally saying what I’ve been holding back?