My fiancé’s sister doesn’t seem to be happy with our wedding and my bf feels guilty.

Hi guys! So I am about to get married next year to my(27) boyfriend(32) of 3 years. Its been fine all the while we were dating, families never had any issues, my family still doesn’t. But ever since we started speaking about “wedding” or discussing about the preparations with his family, they started behaving weird. Firstly, they wanted to delay it as much as possible because he has an elder sister(34) who is still unmarried and you know how indians feel about that.

For context, his sister initially made it clear that she doesn’t want to get married at all. This happened for years so their family stopped looking for suiters for her. But now when we have started planning our wedding, she also wants to get married now!! This sudden revelation of hers created a little mess for us but we managed to get on the same page that there is no point of us waiting for her to get married first because of her sudden change of heart.

Now yesterday, we met his sister for lunch and she behaved so weirdly throughout! She wasn’t happy about us discussing about our wedding. She wasn’t speaking, had this uninterested/disappointed expression on her face throughout. This made me really uncomfortable tbh. I can understand she might not be as excited or interested in our wedding but can’t she be courteous enough to behave? Let alone being happy for her brother.

This is not the first incident. I have been meeting her since last 2 years whenever she is in the city and not even once had she asked me about myself. Like she would always talk about herself! Never asked what do i do for living, what i like, how did i meet her brother nothing. Never calls or text to have a casual conversation. Never.

My therapist advised me to talk to my partner about his family and how they’re like before we get married and I will do that but I don’t want to sound like someone who doesn’t like his sister?! He is very close to her and is always concerned about her well-being. I honestly don’t want to hate her but she gives me this cold treatment that makes me feel really uncomfortable. I tried to bond with her but she never reciprocated so i stopped initiating. I am really excited for my wedding and can’t wait to start a life with my partner but i am worried she would always show up with her sad face that makes my boyfriend guilty. I don’t know how to deal with this.