37 [M4F] #Vancouver, Canada. [IRL]. (Burnaby) - single, not dating, not seeking random hookups, wanting regular ongoing compatible kinky FWB, submissive type or sub-leaning into casual D/s..

Looking for a fun, compatible connection, something good, great vibes, whether it turns into more or stays lighthearted; seeking a mix of chemistry, laughter, fun physical intimacy, see how it goes, connection/vibe matters, labels not much, kink dynamics are best but overall matching in bed is main along with in personality & energy to have good chemistry..

Honestly I feel like work is the lion share of my life and I'm missing having someone I like & enjoy socially +physically +sexually between all the 8-5's plus workdays, errands and upkeep, living, etc.. I've posted in past and am still looking both here & fetlife for a fun kinky compatible counterpart..

I'm not on the swipe apps and work is mainly a lot of men and I'm not dating around so online personals is all I'm on and I put it all out there in my many older posts, everything. My ad's long/in-depth because I'm not texting all this 1on1..

Me:

Brown/South Asian, generally considered attractive, 6ft, the beefier use to workout dad bod for now, a shaved head and tattooed, well groomed - big on hygiene/selfcare, I'm clean, sti/std/drug free, I do enjoy drinking and am into weed edibles, busy working - remote with in person meetings in a niche market and overall am a chill, levelheaded, mature, balanced individual who wants to add something fun to life but not completely meaningless or chasing serious forever and feel that missing middle ground is where it's most fun

I live alone & Can Host in Burnaby, nearby Brentwood mall.. need a no expectations public meet & greet vibe check first because I don't invite strangers over until I verify chemistry through a low key casual social in person meetup, I'm here looking for a fun ongoing regular consistent D/s fwb setup but.. I'm not interested in married, attached or poly women

You?:

I'm 37, at this age I'm looking both directions as I equally enjoy the company of older and younger women so I'd say earlier 20s to later 40s is in my range but I don't usually list off a bunch of metrics, it's about attraction & chemistry and I tend to enjoy the added dimensions in dynamics that arise from age gaps, contrasts, differences.. That said, I'm open to older, younger, and close in age, it's about the vibe. When I was younger, I liked older women, now being older, I like younger women but do still like older women, I like a range. And I've equally liked a range of attributes in the past so I'd say although I have preferences, it's been person to person

So ultimately, everything from age, background, style, look in physical attributes and personality type is relatively open if there is baseline mutual attraction+interest+energy+vibe between us to explore personal+physical for a kinky FWB.. but that doesn't mean I'm up for just anyone who's looking! Tell me a bit about yourself, let's swap pics, go from there..

Overall Search/Vibe:

For starters and my search I'd say consistent longer term kinkier fwb type of of connection; I'm single, have enough on my plate, I'm not chasing after anything serious, dating or relationship, I just want one ongoing kinky match, but I'm also fully open for the right person when it happens, though, tbh I'm just not even interested in dating right now.. for now, seeking a good mix of kink, friendship & affection; Looking for 'the one right now', someone I like for 'fun longer term'

Seeking someone to unwind with, unplug from all the work stuff, de-stress, disconnect etc to just indulge in eachother, I enjoy D/s core dynamic in bed, I am internally Hedonistic which leads into some outward Sadistic play, I mostly have Daddy energy that overrides all of it, re: more in other posts but all that aside individual dynamic is about two energies. I have a high libido and I prefer evenings/nights/weekends, as I tend to keep busier during business hours in the week. I want to pour some drinks, have weed, play for few hours between the late days and early mornings of work at mine

& Not to make my kinks the entirety of my identity, I believe kinky sex, Dom/sub is a natural inclination, in modern time we use labels, define everything. I enjoy variances, as long as vibes sync, I tend to click best with naturally submissive leaning in bed, but not a passive personality. Any roles and labels aside, we need to click first. Everything boils down to having mutual attraction w/ some sort of energy overall. I only enjoy D/s stemming from natural power exchanges not roleplay playacting & not anything overly performative. I want someone who's genuinely internally driven/likes this

Wanting the same & think we'd vibe?:

If you're interested, introduce yourself in the first message, be serious about wanting something IRL, not online/virtual and say enough for me to respond not Hi or no-intro opener