[M4F] Brainy, kinky bigger girls and older men

Everyone has a type. I've always been drawn to the Venn diagram of

• smartypants
• chubby or more-than-chubby, and
• deeply and/or creatively dirty-minded.

No better combination, in my experience! But over the years I've noticed a pattern: so, so often, the coolest, crushworthiest girls who check those boxes are wasted on guys their own age. Sometimes it's that immature guys don't trust their attraction to obviously attractive girls because they've gotten the message that hot = size zero (or, just as likely, they know their friends have internalized that message, and what their friends think matters more to them than what they want.) Sometimes, especially as guys get a little older, it's that they can't really keep up, that they have a simple idea of what's sexually interesting and are not cut out for exploring the darker corridors of a really inventively dirty-minded partner's imagination. And (this one goes for smart women generally, I think) the pool of interested partners is narrowed at one end by the tendency of one kind of guy (puffed up, fragile) to be intimidated by their intelligence and at the other end by the shyness of another kind (super attracted to that intelligence, but hopelessly nerdy and hopeless at talking to girls). (That last one was me early on.)

So, these ridiculously attractive young women who are Into Some Stuff in sophisticated ways go boyfriendless for years, get stuck going on bad date after bad date with loser upon loser, sometimes stay virgins much longer than they had ever hoped or else go a long time without ever connecting with someone who really appreciates what they have to offer sexually and gives them what they need. But, eventually, they arrive at a simple, venerable solution: older men. Men who are old enough to know what they like, who love what they have to offer. Who have, let's be real, had time to catch up in the ways men generally need to catch up. And who, bonus thing, are able to be nurturing and supportive in ways someone their age can't quite be.

Does this sound like you at all? Or like a dynamic that might work for you? One that you remember fondly? I'd love to talk.