I've talked to everyone about thiss 🤦🏻‍♀️

My husband and i have been together a long time going on like 10 years almost one year married . im in my mid 20s .. well we have been through so so so much and just like every relationship i feel in the beginning it was good in terms of an emotional connection. We did the gooshy mushy stuff all the time ect ect well it kinda has worn as expected i suppose but really on my husband's side. That's where this kinda goes bad for me. My husband works alot give me most the money ( which is how he claims he expresses love) but to me i feel like emotionally were not on the same level ... there are certain things he doesnt care about.. like calling or texting through out the day, he doesnt really know what I do all day , hes not affectionate really mostly when hes trying to get laid. Hell do whatever I ask but only if I ask. We only do dates if I ask. Only kiss if I ask or make a move its on me. Well I have complained about this in couples therapy, therapy , to my friends amd everyone thinks im nuts and hanging onto the honey moon phase and want to have "puppy dog love" . He claims hes just secure... I find myself asking if he even loves me or if its a.chore to be with me , cause like why doesnt he grab my hand and walk ? Or why doesnt he change his profile picture without me saying something. Or why doesnt he buy me jewelry or care if im gone all day? Or why does he not care of we havnt been on a date or if i dont say it love you at all . Why do i do these things? To me i just see him as not caring but if he didnt care why would he do what I ask ? Why would he work so hard amd just give me everything. He talks about buying me a house... he talks about how I deserve this or that . He always takes my side and is there when I need to talk ... hes really just settled and comfortable in this marriage to a point he doesnt really do anything ti make it feel like love to me ... more of a solid friendship. Maybe me feeling this way is the womdering if grass is greener on the other said? Maybe im young and ill grow to understand and see his love language??? TL;DR idk if he loves me, cares about me or if im to clingy and codependent. Someone please comment.