Is my manager toxic?

I recently had the first bad performance review of my career, and it’s left me feeling completely broken. I care about doing a good job, and I’m always open to feedback. I know I’m not perfect, but this review made me question everything.

I joined this company about 8 months ago. She’s supposed to be my coach, but we barely communicated in the beginning. After about five months, I decided to take the initiative and scheduled monthly one-on-one meetings with her, thinking maybe we just needed better communication. During those meetings, she never brought up any concerns about my performance or behavior. So when all of this came out in my review, I was shocked.

She said I have attitude issue. There was one team meeting where she asked if I could help review someone’s work. I said, “Yes, I can, but I don’t know too much about it though.” Looking back, maybe I could’ve phrased it better. I was feeling a little uncertain and didn’t want to act overconfident about something I wasn’t totally familiar with. She immediately rolled her eyes and said, “Well, I don’t know anything either.” Everyone laughed, and I just sat there quietly, feeling a bit embarrassed. I finished the task and did my best—I don’t think the result was bad at all.

One incident that really frustrated me was when I used data from a file that turned out to be outdated. There were multiple versions of the file (she usually prepares them), and I wasn’t involved early on. When she saw the issue, she got very angry and told me I wasn’t a critical thinker and didn’t confirm the data. I calmly asked her for the correct version. She sent me one—but it still had the incorrect data. I politely asked about it, but she didn’t respond—instead, she just sent a different version. That version also had a confusing header (which she had just told me I should’ve paid attention to). I double-checked again, and she finally confirmed it was the right one despite the header. After all that, I updated the work and submitted a high-quality result.

That kind of thing happens a lot. She’ll review my work and leave comments that don’t always make sense or seem inconsistent. When I try to clarify or ask questions, she often seems offended—like I’m challenging her authority rather than trying to understand and get it right. Then, in several cases, I later find out I was actually correct to question it. It feels like I’m being punished for trying to think carefully instead of just blindly agreeing.

I feel defeated and just keep questioning myself. I know I’ve made mistakes, I’ve also worked hard and tried to adjust every time something was pointed out. Is it worth to keep trying here or should I just leave？