Wife never wants to finish

Little bit of background (possible trauma dump😂), my wife and I have been together almost seven years, married for one. 26M/25F. We’ve had an active sex life the entire time. But early on I asked the question “why do you never finish?” Her answer “not many women finish from penetration alone”. Ok, cool, there’s research that supports that. So I try other means, going down, using my hands, etc. She’ll tell me it feels good and I’ll get the right reactions out of her so I believe her (unless she’s fooling me and really good at faking). But she’ll never finish like that. The only way she will is if she’s bent over and rubbing herself at the same time. Here over the last few months, I’ve really doubled down to focus on her because for seven years, it’s felt like she just wants me to get off and wants it to be quick. If I go down, she’s pulling me back up in less than two minutes to get to the main part. If I use my hand, she’ll pull it away, even though she has showed me how she likes it multiple times. But she never wants her clit touched, ever. Strange to me because that seems to me the “sweet spot”. All of this is really effecting me more than she knows because I feel like I’m failing her in bed

I dont know what I’m looking for here posting on Reddit. If it’s maybe that I need someone to tell me I’m over thinking it. Or that I’m crazy, or wrong, or an asshole for feeling this way.

TLDR: wife never orgasms no matter what I do, acts like she doesn’t want to and that it’s normal.