24m and 23f, am I overreacting for really not being okay with women on social media?

So here’s a little backround. We were friends way back and we’ll there was always tension. We stopped talking for a year because I have into hanging out more and being in the liking of eachother that he always said but I found him talking to a Snapchat model online that he deleted so we stopped talking for a year. Go forward to July of 2024 after a couple months of some catch ups here and there we fully talked about everything. He came in head first wanting to move in, he had changed so much and so have I, so benefit of the doubt. It was good for a while. He was so open with everything. Since then we did start dating but I still have trust issues I try to work around, and I tried to talk to him about it but there was no going around. We’ve both been working through our own triggers but he also tends to avoid his and not share when he doesn’t like something or is upset and then it just gets weird.Okay so he watched a little porn but he would show me his phone and he wasn’t going through only fans and he’d reassure and wasn’t texting or adding anyone. Boom we FaceTime a night I can see through his glasses he stopped and was looking at a video of some girls. Scrolled. Okay I tried to be okay w it but it truly just sticks with me. My trust issues made him more upset that It feels like I’m constantly worried or not secure w him, caused him to not fully relax, cause disconnect, caused more in safety within myself in turn, asking again. So now we’re finally at the mark of talking about it. How to continue. Anyways. we say we still want to be in eachothers life but both are drained by our own feelings about everything as well and just want to relax again with eachother. Well… am I overreacting on letting this get in the way? This is what he claimed to me. Only a small part of our big interaction. Mind you we are long distance which makes me work overtime to calm myself because I try to deal w it on my own but I ask because if not I feel I’ll just hold it in and resent.

He feels like he’s being watched all the time and can’t be himself and I’m just stuck on this part of it all. He says he wants to focus on his mental without worrying about someone else and well I now feel bad because I understand he doesn’t feel okay within himself so I want him to be who he is and do what he needs to do as well. It’s just difficult and I’d like some humans to share with because I’ve held a lot in and I’m making myself want to work with him and at the same time prioritize my feelings but now idk if it’s truly not that big of a deal.

“And that’s the other thing I’ve been thinking about, when we were talking about me looking at girls on social. I don’t know if it’s just me, but I don’t see a problem with it. I know you don’t like it, but social media is littered with women, and whether I’m looking at them or not, it’s not going to change how I feel about you. It’s social media, and if by me looking at a picture (not around you) makes you feel a way, there’s nothing I can say to change it. Because I know it’s not something you can get over. And same thing with the way I talk. I respect you enough to change the way I talk around you, but yk how guys are. And I’m not using that as an excuse, but you know who I am. So I can tell you I won’t ever talk like that or look at girls on social médica would just be lying. “