Does your partner ever kill the mood?

Like i mean they say something totally unsexy or make a joke when you're trying to get busy? My husband sometimes just doesn't seem to have any game. I love him so but man, he just doesn't seem to have any..... intensity . He's almost too .... nice? His sexy talk is just not good. I've tried to lead by example. I've sent him erotica. I've listened to audio erotica with him.

He just doesn't have it. Damn.

Since he doesn't , how can i just let it go and be happy with what is?