Do they change?

I 30F married am tired of having unresolved conflicts with my husband 32M who has anger issues and no emotional intelligence. We are married for a year now. Whenever I express a feelin or establish a boundary he gets really angry. In our last fight, he threw our rice cooker from a lit stove and broke my coffee cup and spilt coffee everywhere in the kitchen. He says he acted mad cuz I made him so. He never comforts me even if I'm crying my eyes out after a fight or doesn't even try to communicate about it. I've left the house a couple of times as I couldnt deal with the anxiety and hurt. But he never bothers to msg me or resolve things. He just says come home and sometimes not even that. He insults me during fights and when I say I'm hurt he says I shouldn't be because I know what I am. I'm just tired. I feel so disconnected. I never expected marriage to be like this. He's very physically affectionate other times and helps with chores, sometimes buys me stuff. Says I love you everyday. Lots of hugs, kisses. But there is no deeper connection that I feel. He doesn't want to do counseling as well as he feels it's not necessary. I have forgiven him many times in the hope things will be different. Now he kisses me and I feel nothing because I'm too hurt by everything. I wanna know.. Do people with such issues ever change...? I'm scared of losing my life in hope.