Name of AP

The name of my husbands AP has been specifically triggering for me since the beginning of R. Funnily enough, I don’t even know her name, and that is one thing I stood on that I did NOT want to know from the beginning. I often wonder if somebody in our life has the same name, if we’ve heard it while watching a show together, etc. and if he thinks of her when he hears it. He told me at the beginning (8 months ago) that we would probably never hear her name because it was quite rare.

Recently we’ve been talking about adopting a cat, and I’ve had a name picked out for a long time, prior to the affair. It’s a really unique name, and I’ve been overthinking that it could be her name. So I brought it up to him. He said “honestly, I’m trying to think about her name right now and I can’t remember what it is”.

I know this is a specific scenario but can any BPs relate to this or any WPs who genuinely forget their APs name? It was a drunken ONS and he never spoke to her again. So it IS believable, but also somewhat hard to believe.