AITA for causing a friend to drop out of college?

this is gonna be a long one and of course, many info will be changed for privacy reasons.

ill start from the very beginning. the friend that dropped out is called D. we were friends for 2 years, in the same friend group and everything. he's an international student, unlike me, who is local. he's been there for me for many occasions, but, its very clear he is not motivated for schooling. I had to push him to even come to school at year2.

now in year3, things suddenly changed. D got a partner from work, and suddenly his world resolves all around his partner. But i know him. if he sets his heart on something, he would be obsessed with it. they met through his workplace, which led to him skipping school just to go work, even before getting with his partner.

we are to have half a year of internship, and our teacher in charge of it is literally a god in finding amazing internships for his students. but D, wanted an internship at his current workplace. he purposely screwed up all the internship interviews, just because he thought he could get the one he wants. But guys, we all know we cant intern at a place we have connections to right? the whole point of an internship is to gain new experience.

we have encouraged D highly to take on a new experience and such, but of course, it fell on deaf ears. our care was completely disregarded, but he can do him and we thought he would figure it out.

so here's the thing, we have many group projects with D that are content heavy, and he did not participate in it at all until the last minute. and at last minute, you know the kind of work that would be given lol. Chatgpt and half hearted work.

we had a presentation for this groupwork, and its very clear that everyone was pissed at D. we had morning class before the presentation and a break before it as well, giving us plenty of time to go through it. but god... D did not come. So of course he was lost during presentation and wanted to present parts he did not do.

Ok to clarify he did do the slide. but the information was from a report others in the group made.

there is another friend that has been close friends with me and D since the first year. Call him C. C is the type of person that would absolutely not take bullshit. and when C is pissed, you'll know it.

C showed D that he was pissed at him during the presentation, which led to D asking me if C was pissed at him. I just gave him a 'u know it' look and told him to ask C himself.

keep in mind, there are a total of 6 people in the group, where all 5 had to work on D's part due to his lack of participation.

D private messaged 3/5 people in the group, saying how sorry he was for messing up and not participating in the groupwork this whole time. we concluded that D did not pm the other 2 as they were not close in the friend group thus it does not matter to D whether they forgave him or not. But it's just not nice. We also have our commitments and want to spend our time on other things, and everyone was affected by D lack of participation.

part of D's apology was that he had some things going on before the project, thus he couldnt participate.

We would have understood if he told us before this happened, so we would know 'oh, D's going through it now so we should help him out on it'. But, he only apologised after seeing that his actions had consequences.

Before this saga, we were clear D has very poor time management skills. and yes, we have tried to talk to him about it because we care, but it seemed that he shuts down everytime we get to it.

We would not have minded if he apologised to us in person, sincerely and acknowledge his actions. But he did not. I told him everything we felt, about how we felt our care being disregarded, how him skipping school would have consequences to himself, why he only apologised to some of us instead of the whole group, and such. He only kept on apologising to the point where i felt that he was only apologising for the sake of apologising.

At school, we did not talk to him at all and did not wait for him after classes, and it looks like we dropped him out the friend group.

Should i have been the one to make the first move here? to ask him to join us?

I told him, that in the next project that is insanely content heavy, its his chance to make it up to the rest, and his participation would affect me if he does not as I was the one that pushed the others to give him one more chance in the project, and if he does not do his work, I would be the one taking up his work. And he did promise.

Holidays ended, and he did not show up for classes. He did not open group messages meant for group projects, did not open lecturer's texts and such.

We went to find the lecturer in charge of internships, to ask what we should do. should we drop him out of the group? or should we dig him out of the hole he dug himself into?

He advised us that I should approach him with sincerity, that we are worried about him and to come to school. But it lowkey sounded like he wanted us to beg D to come school.

Before i managed to send the text about it, we have messages in the group project groups on information regarding it, and D messaged me.

He said that he was going to take a break from school for awhile. that he was not trying to avoid us and that he was just going through some things.

to be honest, I was heart broken haha. this was easily solvable, we wanted him to learn that his actions has consequences and if he was mature enough, he would come to his senses. But i guess it did not go that way.

I did not want to give up. I wanted to try one last time to push him. for him to come back and I would do everything. help his studies from chapter 1, from the beginning, spoon feed him. Im willing to spend my time to do it for him. and I told him so, in hopes that its a solution for him.

But, he has already made up his mind about it.

haha but his reply to me are clearly victimising himself. He said that after the grp project, everything fell apart, that he was going through it before the project, that he lost motivation in school.

why i said it feels like hes victimising himself? On a social media platform, he has been updating his feelings, and it's clear as day its about this situation. after I sent him that message, he said on the platform 'people dont appreciate it, it's always your fault mo matter what'

im tired. i need yall's opinion. are we the AH? did i approach this wrongly?