Frustrating Update/ Vent on about my wife that’s supposed to be coming home after four months in the Hospital/ Rehab.

Being 100% disable and fighting stupid insurance rules can be so frustrating. I’m 100% disabled and cannot lift more than a few pounds because of severe chest pain. My wife is still currently 100% disabled and cannot stand and is supposed to be coming home after around 120 days in the hospital on Monday. But insurance ( Medicare Advantage ) is refusing to pay for a fully electric wide hospital bed or power Hoyer lift. We offered to pay the difference for the wide/ power options and were told that cannot be done. How am I supposed to insure that a 320 lbs woman is fully and properly seated in her power wheelchair by pulling on the back of the Hoyer sling while operating a manual Hoyer lift? How am I supposed to operate cranks, hand pumps on beds and lifts while being 100% disabled? How am I supposed to turn her in bed for cleaning or to put the Hoyer sling under her in a narrow bed? Insurance and their rules can be so frustrating. I am about to throw up my hands and tell them to pay for 100% nursing care in a nursing home from now on until she can stand and pivot. If they do not want to compromise on $1500+ in costs that we were willing to pay payments on. We have been on this insurance treadmill for a decade. It’s so infuriating. Who was the idiot that decided that someone that gives 24/7 care does not need something simple like a power hospital bed or lift to help care for your loved one? Now it’s either pay for the entire cost of both or send her to a nursing home.