Do not get the appeal of it tbh.

Was texting a girl and the conversation started to venture into sex, she said she wanted to "suck the strap" and it immediately icked me and raised a red flag. Being completely honest, if I was with a girl in bed and at some point she said she wanted to suck my strap I would immediately become hesitant assume she wants to be with a guy instead. Like, Idk man, some people say "it's a performance to turn on the partner" but like I'm gay why would I want to watch you suck dick? Idk just venting cause that just ruined the mood