An update

Some of you might remember I was waiting on the reaction once K found out about my move.

K keeps trying to schedule face-to-face meetings using “business appropriate” language, but since there’s no actual work reason to meet, I just decline. She’s clearly looking for unrecorded conversations but I have zero obligation to accommodate that.

The relief has been incredible. I’m sleeping properly again and the constant stress is gone. It’s amazing how much mental energy was being drained by that situation. D has been completely trustworthy throughout this whole process and actually follows through on what they say.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

What worked?

Documenting everything— contradictory instructions, unreasonable timelines. Anything that exposes them and their actual competence. Document patterns, not single incidents, impact on colleagues so people know it’s them not just about you. Stay objective and let HR see the evidence.

Be patient and professional in any interaction. Find leadership who values results over politics. Let work quality and integrity speak for you.

For anyone in similar situations: Document everything, find advocates, stay professional. Takes patience, but narcissistic managers eventually expose themselves.