Are most feminists submissive in bed?

I've always been drawn to strong, outspoken, commanding feminists who command a room with their confidence, tearing down stereotypes and owning their power. I fantasized they would be dominating, pinning me down, telling me exactly what they wanted with that same unapologetic fierceness. But here's my dirty little confession: every time I've been with one, it's been the opposite. They push me to take control, to be rough, to claim them in ways I didn't expect.

One of the girls at work: her words cut like a blade, dismantling arguments with precision. In my head, I pictured her tying me up, whispering commands in my ear. But when we finally hooked up, she melted under my touch, begging me to grab her wrists, to pull her hair, to fuck her hard. Her eyes screamed submission, and it drove me wild. I thought it was a one off, but then another who could lecture on patriarchy for hours. In bed, she was the same pushing me to pin her down, to take charge, her moans louder the rougher I got.

Curious to know if others have had similar experience? And if you are such a woman, what do you think? These women, so dominant in their daily lives, seem to crave letting go behind closed doors. They want me to lead, to be the one who decides how fast, how hard, how deep. It's like they're handing me the reins, trusting me to push their limits. It's a rush feeling their strength dissolve into soft gasps and whispered pleas. It's not what I expected, but I'm not complaining. But I also keep looking for someone to show me my place and lead.