How can I date?

I’m a closeted 22tf. Literally never dated before, I’ve never asked someone out, and I haven’t had any romantic experiences. Dating apps suck and I don’t know where to meet people irl. Every girl I meet is taken as well, whyyyyyyy??

On top of being a trans lesbian and all the things that go along with that, I also have health conditions that affect large parts of my day to day life. Celiac makes everything difficult, and I have ibs so I can’t drink alcohol. It’s always super awkward when people ask “why didn’t you get any food?” Or “you getting drunk tonight?”. I don’t mind chatting over food even if I’m not eating, and I like being DD if no one is throwing up (I have a phobia of vomit). But I’m obviously having trouble connecting with people my age because those are two massive parts of your early 20s. I can’t even kiss my would-be partner if they have been eating recently.

On top of that, I’m closeted. I’m interested in sapphics, but I lack fem clothes and the confidence to wear them. I’ve been on hrt for almost a year but I’m stuck in boymode. So if I were to approach a girl, I’d be approaching in boymode, which isn’t an accurate representation of me, and won’t get me accurate results on whether they are compatible with me. It’s difficult.

I live on a small island with few people, there aren’t really many ways to meet people either.