Brand new to official servers- LFG help me pleeease

Hello all that open this up, I have roughly 350 hours on modded servers and would like to dive into getting an official experience. I logged on to Rustymoose monthly premium on wipe day.. waited in queue for 5 hours. Bought the 10$ VIP skip queue immediately after that. Luckily those 5 hours I used to go across town and eat dinner to return and bring 5th in line to load in. Boom finally I spawned in. 800 players! Let me tell you that my SOLO experience of this wipe has been very frustrating. I can build moderately strong bases, I understand how most of the game mechanics work and I can pvp moderately. I really enjoy the game itself but not being able to find at least 1-2 other players to team up with is just frustrating since I keep getting punished anytime I try to farm resources. I know about the low pop servers would be a better option for me being solo but I enjoy how active the larger servers are. If you have made it to this point and want to wing me up I’ll send u my steam ID! Ty all ! Hopeful!