Hate my community

As a South Asian woman, I hate, and I mean HATE my community. I hate how everytime you do something, there’s always an aunty in your business. Always someone saying “log kya khenge” (what will people say) I literally get fucking brain tumor every time that sentence gets brought up. There’s no privacy, no boundaries and literally no room for you to talk about your feelings. I especially hate how women in my community are treated, it’s so bad, that every women is pinned against each other to the point, that even the men aren’t the problem anymore, it’s the women that are. You will see them fish for gossip, and use it against you to downplay your feelings and how you as a woman aren’t allowed to feel stuff in a certain way because you are a “woman”. Men did indeed in some way set a misogynistic system up, but the ones LEADING IT are the women. You will expect them to fight against it, but instead they play into it. It’s always girls support girls, until you meet an SA aunty. I literally pray that this new generation of sa girls are way better, mentally and emotionally. For some reason, they have this, “survival of the fittest” mindset that involves who can gather more power by “gossiping”, and gathering information from other people’s saddening, most likely their WORST day of their lives, an example could be, a girl will suffer abuse for years, and as soon as she steps up for herself, these AUNTIES, will blame her, instead of the abuser whose walking around freely.

My mom divorced my dad, and as a sa you know that it’s a big deal in our community, as it’s seen “shameful”. Years of abuse, neglect etc. my mom finally stepped up for herself, and guess what? The aunties literally mock her for it. God forbid a woman wanting to end years of abuse and neglect to finally be treated better. It took her a long time to realize her worth. It took a lot of effort for me to tell her that she’s worth living and not being used as a maid to do everything for my so called “dad”. No support from anyone, nothing at all. God I hate my community so much. The day that women in my community stop pinning against each other, is the day our community will grow in a positive light.

I hate south asian women (aunties). With a burning passion. And istg, let me meet a south asian woman mocking my mom, and I’ll make sure she knows hell. These are the same woman btw, whose sons are in either jail or wanted by the police for illegal possession of drugs, firearms etc. but will still treat them like kings, and will treat the girls horribly, who btw properly are good, does well in school, on their way to be a doctor, lawyer, engineer, real estate agent etc. but no, it’s not “enough” you know what’s ENOUGH? A fucking goddamn marriage. Cause that’s “fulfilling”. Ugh.