Writing a note is not passive aggressive, being a terrible roommate is.

What’s passive about writing a note? Nothing. It can still be aggressive, but it isn’t passive. Constantly ’forgetting’ basic tasks or agreed-upon chores is passive aggressive. Everyone misunderstands what PA behaviour is. It’s an omission or failing to act in the knowledge that someone else will take care of the situation. Clip your f’n toenails over the bathtub and leave them there for someone else to clean is passive aggressive. Leave your dogshit where someone else will step on it is passive aggressive. Writing a note because your roommate or colleague can’t take responsibility for minimal tasks necessary for cohabitation is not passive aggressive. It may be petty, shrill, officious, or overreacting, but it is not passive.