Most men are terrible at oral

I’ve got a body count somewhere between 70-80, and I can tell you with certainty that most men are just awful at oral sex. They all seem to think they’re great at it and love bragging about their stamina, finding the right spots, having all their partners come from it…but really, they have no clue what they’re doing and can’t take direct instruction, let alone suggestion.

It’s really disappointing almost every time. What I can’t figure out is: why do they think they’re good at it? Do their sexual partners always fake having a good time? Have they never been told that 30 seconds is nothing? I’ve given oral for 15-20 minutes before; why can’t men give back even half that amount of time? I get that it makes the jaw and tongue sore—there are pretty simple exercises you can do to increase your mouth stamina. (And they help keep your neck from looking saggy as you age too, just saying.)

And why can’t they pick up on cues? Like, if the woman you’re going down on tells you to keep doing exactly what you’re doing and right there, why do you keep changing it up? We’re literally telling men what works for us and they ignore it instantly. It’s so frustrating. The max time I’ve gotten from all but two partners was about 2 minutes before they decided they were done and I must’ve obviously gotten off. 🤦‍♀️

Women: what’s your experience on the receiving end? Are you direct in telling men how to please you specifically? Do you fake it and try to get it over with asap?

Men: do people truly not give you feedback during? Are you just trying to emulate porn? What’s happening here?