Should I distance myself away from my friends?
hello! English is not my first language so there will be mistake here and there. And I'm sorry about that. So me and my friends are all 17. We are turning 18 this year and we graduated highschool. I'm gonna call them by the name Luna and Alice. We never really drunk alcohol, vaped and smoked. Honestly I don't like any of those, but I tasted bit of wine with my mom and drank champagne during Christmas but nothing more than that, because of this my friend call me alcoholic as a joke.
But for our last class trip, me and my friends tried alcohol and vape. And later I found out that my friends tried smoking. I don't mind it. They are just trying out and that's all. And ever since then nothing happened.
But 2 days ago Luna messaged me to hang out, so I said yes. But the purpose of our hang out was to drink, which I was surprised about. I didn't wanted to drink but didn't wanted to felt left out so drank with them. We didn't drink much. (It was can of beer and Soju)
And yesterday Alice called me to have a sleepover which I agreed to. But turns out sleepover was also excuse to drink. I didn't like it so I told them that they shouldn't drink much. They argued back saying it was just a few times and I shouldn't be so worked out for. Besides it's very low alcohol in them. And said they wanted to try and I shouldn't say anything because my parents allowed me to drink and theirs don't.
Honestly I'm angry. The reason why I don't like alcohol or smoking and vaping. Is because my dad is alcoholic and smokes a lot. My friends knew that. Besides my dad and mom doesn't allow me to drink because I want to, obviously. They allow me to drink only during Christmas. And my mom when she is emotionally unavailable. Besides I'm only 17.
If I'm being honest I've been left out for a long time now. Since they live near each other they are a lot closer, even tho I was friends with them longer than they have with each other. Luna have pretty dark humour and can be aggressive. And during our whole school year she kept saying hurtful things to me. I couldn't stand it so I told her that she's being too mean. And she said "well that's how I am, aren't I just awesome?" And didn't apologise. That happened 3 times. She doesn't apologise even tho she knows I'm hurt by her words. And Alice can be selfish, too selfish. And when I tell her it's the same thing with Luna. So should I distance myself?
Posted Jul 6, 2025, 7:25 PM UTC