AIO do I stay or should I go?

I’ve been with my 37 yo male boyfriend (I’m 38 female) for less than a year. We were head over heels and so happy together until he quit his job almost three months ago. I knew he was miserable and encouraged him to follow his happiness but I also didn’t realize how different he would become. I’ve always seen him as hardworking and compassionate, and very generous. His initial plan was to look for another job before quitting, then that changed to after he quit, then next week, and now it’s been three months. The first week and a half after he quit, he was on my couch playing video games nearly all day, not helping clean, and so I asked him to do that at home (he lives with his parents- he moved in there last year as his rent tripled and he was planning to relocate to Texas soon) which really hurt him and he said I wasn’t being supportive. I felt bad but also need my space to feel peaceful. Mostly I just don’t see actions following words, and that concerns me. He broke my tail light and it took asking for months until he fixed it (a month after quitting his job). I found out he was lying to his parents and pretending to still go to work every day when he came to my place. I told him that made me uncomfortable so he told them the truth, but insisted it wasn’t lying because he intended to tell them. I think it was dishonest and it’s made me question his values. I know he has money saved but I don’t like how the job narrative keeps changing. I feel weird that my boyfriend who is nearing 40 just wants to play video games most of the afternoon and ignore real life. It just suddenly feels like I don’t know this person and am having a hard time finding how to admire him and I’m hoping the love will come back- am I being impatient? Am I being too hard on him? Also our intimate life has disappeared. I just don’t feel as attracted and I feel like I’m cleaning up after him all the time, plus he only wants BJs nonstop and barely returns the favor so I’ve stepped back in that regard because I started to feel like a mouthpiece and didn’t feel desired in the same way back. I tried to explain it over the months but now have given up a bit. The whole thing is so sad- why is it dissolving? Is this a Peter Pan situation? I want to start a family and live happily ever after, damnit! I thought this was the man I would do it with. Any advice appreciated, thank you.