TIFU by not specifying that I was mainly hanging out with women

Well, it was actually yesterday but still applies as a recent fuck up. Me and my (22f) boyfriend (19m) were supposed to hang out the week of the 4th. He didnt want to and changed his mind because he wanted to hang with friends he hadn’t seen in a while- he told me this days in advance which was fine. He said he’d come see me one of those days before the 4th though, which also did not happen. It made me realize that I need friends or some kind of people beside him to hang out with. On the 4th I went out to the lake where a firework show was being hosted. Lots of people were there but I was by myself for a bit.

It started raining for a couple of minutes so a guy (middle aged) invited me into his group’s tent. I declined, and a couple of moments later his sister re invited me over so I went to not feel rude. I chilled with the sister, the guy and his fiance, and their friends (4 women who were technically moreso the fiances friends.) So when my fiance who I didn’t really speak to the night of the 4th because he wasn’t responding to any messages (he was with his friend, not doing anything sleazy) texted the next morning- I asked how was his 4th. He said what was good and he asked me how was mine. I told him mine was also fun and told him about the lake. I also told him about the people I met.

But here’s where things went wrong. And I guess it’s my fault. I was happy about making friends, not really thinking of the way I worded my text. I sent “I went alone but now I know that all I have to do is go out and that’s pretty much how you make friends as an adult, It started raining so a guy asked me if I wanted to stay in his groups tent but I declined and his sister told me to come over when it stopped raining, then more of their friends came after the rain so I was with all of them. I felt less lonely so I appreciated it, they offered shots as well so I had a small amount” (bottles weren’t open yet and still sealed, I made sure for safety purposes.) I had a really fun time so I was just being upfront and honest and sharing details about the group I met. He asked me if I got drunk and I said no, I didn’t have much. I told him I hope he had a good time and he said “I’m sure my time will get better after today.” Then he blocked me on everything which made me confused.

So I had to drive an hour away to his house and search for him. Wasn’t there. Went to his job, wasn’t there. Went back to his house and he was back. I was asking him what the hell happened and he told me I was out drinking with men and hanging in a tent with a group of men. I told him no, I was not. A guy first invited me over because of the rain and then his sister brought me over. Then I hung out with them, the guy’s fiancée, and their 4 female friends. I had to show video proof and I had to text the women I befriended. I guess where I went wrong was not being specific about the friends gender, but I wasn’t thinking that much on it. I understood why his red flag alarm went off but even when I tried to tell him he shouldn’t have just blocked me like that without thinking to ask questions, he kept saying he had every right to do so upon what he was thinking. I called it childish and I told him that I had to chase him down here when I could’ve called or texted a better explanation.

Then later that night when we spoke about it some more, I told him I was hurt because he basically had broke up with me and blocked me. He threw away every note card and letter I ever made for him, threw away things I bought him, and told his parents I was out at the lake drinking with men. Even though he told them he was wrong- for a couple of moments his family basically thought I was cheating. When I explained to him my feelings and sadness, he was like “you called me childish for my rightful reaction so it’s kinda hard to feel bad.” I was being so vulnerable about how bad I felt and that’s what he had to say. We talked for about an hour after that and just came to the conclusion that he’ll work on not reacting so fast and I’ll work on clarifying better. We’re still together. So yeah. Again I understand his point of view, it is incredibly disrespectful to be hanging out with a group of random men as a taken woman but that wasn’t the case, and he was really quick to throw in the towel.

TL;DR- Boyfriend thought I was getting railed by a group of guys in a tent because I failed to be more specific.