I need advice on if I'm being dramatic or justified in frustration.

I 29M am married to 25F and need help on where to draw the line. We have been married for 4 months now and been together for 5 years now with a daughter. I will start with my wife has trust issues with me due to financial failures (my fault) but more importantly our daughter nearly choked due to me laying her down too soon after feeding to get ready for work trusting the baby heart monitor to let us know if something happens. Since then it's been down hill. We keep arguing how I'm not treating her as nice as when we first met, ignoring our daughter, and just emotionally abandonment of our relationship. It's been a week since our last argument and I've been spending all my free time with them and things are getting better, but we had a disagreement this morning because I wanted to take our daughter to hang out with our friend group that meets every Sunday (we haven't been to for 2 weeks now). My wife has had worsening health problems since 22 as she passes out often and can't work leaving me with all the financial responsibilities. At this point I gave up my career with a shipping company and moved to another state so she could pursue hers before she got sick, but after getting sick she had to quit and we had to move back. After moving back I started a new career in a construction union. 1 year passes and now she can't work at all and 5 months later she is pregnant. We move into her parents' place for the safety of both herand the baby as soon as the baby is born. With her health conditions up to this point I've missed many days at work and afterthebaby is born she gets sick again and I missed more work and they finally lay me off. Now with a baby I am not working and lose a second career, now wife spends most of her time watching our baby while getting about 9 hours of on/off sleep and has free time at night. I up to this point have given up 2 careers, gaming hobby (temporarily?), sleep average of 4 hours, take all financial responsibility, and can't even hang out with friends for 4 hours on a single day of the week, with all my job interviews and uber work I cant even talk to my therapistabout all this. I'm trying to tell both sides and I hope it comes across. How much give is too much and am I doing enough?