30F: My husband supported me through years of in-law abuse — now we’re the villains.

I (30F)just returned to the UK after visiting India, and I’m still trying to process the hurt caused by my in-laws. After being humiliated, blamed, and shut out, now they are pretending like nothing happened — and I’m expected to play along?

Some background: My husband’s biological mother passed away 8 years ago, and his father remarried the same year we got married. We lived in a metro city in India working as a software engineer before moving to the UK to pursue our Master’s degrees.lEvery time we visited our hometown , where my in-laws live, they acted cold. They’d avoid us, exclude us from household matters, and make us feel like outsiders. The environment there is heavily influenced by my father-in-law’s second wife and my jethani (husband’s brother’s wife).They’ve never accepted me. My jethani constantly compared me with herself, judged everything I did — from how I dressed to how I spoke — and even had the audacity to say “we are your saas-sasur”, trying to assert dominance over me. She even called my sister characterless, something the second wife once admitted to me. But when confronted, both women denied it, and my father-in-law took their side, like always. One month ago, my father-in-law yelled at my husband, said degrading things like”Your wife reports everything to her mother“,”Women should be treated like slippers,”Your father is giving you brain.” None of this is true. My family is educated, peaceful, and never interfered. My father never said a word to my husband about his household issues. And more importantly — I’ve never raised my voice, never disrespected my father-in-law, and always tried to be good to everyone.

That’s why my husband has always stood by me. He knows the truth. He’s seen how I’ve handled all the mistreatment — with patience, not anger.

Meanwhile, my brother-in-law, who had no job, stayed with them. My father-in-law gave him a WCL job and now supports them fully. They all live like one happy unit — after pushing us out.

We chose silence after the last big fight. My husband didn’t even want to speak to his father again. But when his father called after a month, I encouraged him to at least take the call. And what happened?

My father-in-law spoke like nothing ever happened. No apology. No responsibility. Just pretending it’s all fine.

It’s so confusing. We were insulted. Cut off. Judged. Blamed.