Gaslighting later in life - is this a result of our upbringing?

Okay, this might sound old-fashioned, but I've been gaslighted a lot at work.

As an executive and a woman, for years I've brushed this off as a gender problem—something I just had to live with.

Recently, I've started questioning this narrative. My executive coach pointed out it could be related to my upbringing (I didn't tell him about my past). It truly seems that for some reason I'm encountering a lot of narcissists and psychopaths in my field (again, this could be because I'm an executive and I meet a lot of powerful or very wealthy people). Nevertheless, I also thought that I tolerate a lot of "BS" just because I learned how to tolerate a lot of "BS" when I was a child.

Let me give you two examples: Every time I solve a big business problem and put together a solution, I quote a lot of male opinions to support my solution, or I say that another male suggested it as well.

Also, when I'm implementing a change and a male on a board or elsewhere disagrees with it, it's extremely hard for me to push the correct narrative without gathering a lot of empirical evidence. If it's only my word, it's almost always gaslighted into, "We don't have enough evidence for this, and this is just your perspective."

Finally, my executive coach pointed this out when a board member shouted at me for pushing my ideas despite evidence. I always kept my cool as things like this don't throw me off at all. Being in this group and being in therapy, I know that I am able to work with absolute crazy people and never emotionally react to abuse.

Do you think that we as survivors of narcissistic abuse are more prone to be mistreated and gaslighted later in life?

I'm going to bring this up with my executive coach and this is not a topic that I can do in therapy as my therapist told me that this is about her pay class. Nevertheless, this creates a lot of real problems for me in my professional life.

Thank you for your opinions