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Doms, have you ever experienced Dom drop?

For the first time in my multiple decades of Domming, I think I've experienced Dom drop and I'd like to hear about your experiences and how you cope with the emotional comedown from a scene.

Some background:

My Plaything and I spent a weekend in Las Vegas and we spent a day at the Sea Mountain Inn. I'll post a review of SMI in a different sub, but suffice it to say that if you like being naked, if you like playing in front of others or with others in a super chill and very tolerant atmosphere, this place is for you.

That said, my Plaything and I were chilling in the hot tub making small talk with another couple and the evening was winding down. Just as I was thinking the night might be solo play for us, the couple commented on my Plaything's collar and I said she and I are a D/s couple. They were intrigued and on a hunch I asked them if they wanted to watch us do a scene to which they enthusiastically agreed.

So I fetched my "sex bag" of toys (I'd brought it after confirming witht he SMI staff that bondage play is okay.) and we moved into the big playroom. The couple also asked if another couple could join us as they had already set up time to play, so there were three couples in the room as I began a fairly moderate scene focusing mainly on impact play using my flogger and spanking.

I tell you, there was something in the air that night because I've never felt this focused before. I was completely in tune with Plaything, working off of every moan, cry, and gasp. It was hard for me to halt the scene before she sank too far into subspace as I didn't want to end the night for us. Instead I brought her down gently and laid her on the bed and as we cuddled the other couples commented on how sexy she looked and how hot it was to watch someone get flogged. When I asked if anyone else wanted a turn, both of the other women volunteered and both revealed it was their first time being tied up and flogged.

So I started a scene with the second woman and took her to about a five out of ten on the pain scale when she elected to stop and when I set her down on the bed she and her husband started going at it. The second woman reacted similarly but seemed much more into it so I went harder on her and again, I went into the state of hyper focus, and I felt like I could hear the snap of every fall landing on her skin.

Finally she opted to be done and we all piled onto the bed to talk through the experience, cuddle, and caress as the women processed the experience. I felt honored and humbled to have been the first to provide this experience for these women and watch their respect for my Plaything grow as they realized how hard she took it during our scene. Eventually the night turned to incredible group sex and as the nite wound down we went back to our lives.

But here is why I'm asking for advice: I was super emotional, soaring high on the experience and the discussion afterwards. I was hot and sweaty and my arms were tired and my palms were hot and stinging from all the spanking and slapping and the euphoria was next level. I mean, I've felt euphoric after our scenes but this was like the weird awareness and distorted reality of candyflipping.

Unfortunately, the next day was our flight home and that's when the crash hit. I couldn't help but relive the previous evening's activities and was so sad to be returning to the daily grind. Nothing felt as good or as alive as I felt last night and I couldn't imagine living in this dreary world of normies until Plaything and I got to play again. I felt sluggish and really down and a little scared about how I was feeling, but then I realized I must be dropping.

So I ate a bag of doritos on the plane, closed my eyes while listening to chill music and whiled away the time until I could get home, relax in the hot tub and take care of myself as I have so often taken care of Plaything.

It was an incredible night of play but I got a little freaked out by my own emotional reaction to the experience.

Doms, have you ever experienced this type of drop? I'd like to hear your stories and how you cope with the comedown after an incredible scene.

Posted Jul 6, 2025, 7:38 PM UTC

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