AIO for hating my partner for calling me "b****" and possibly leading me on?

im sorru the beginning is a bit r/crushes ish, but please stay-- it gets more questionable at the end 😭 we are both in high school. i was partnered with him for a team competition, and we have very different personalities. i'm very quiet and don't talk to anyone, but he's rly outgoing. in the first two weeks he was really friendly to me but would say some questionable things. i'll give some examples below:

he showed up to one of my study meetings the second weekend after he met me and sat next to me for 2 hours while scrolling reels. when i and my friend took a break from studying he started talking with us and asked about whether i was going tk thr school dance. i said no and he said "oh dang it, if you'd gone i would have taken you as my date" and it sorta went way over my head and he left 20 minutes later saying he "had a dinner date with his bf" (later he told me he was straight)

one time we were meeting at night in a student lounge and i was sleep deprived so i started giggling at everything and some peopld walked in and he said to me "stop laughing ppl woll think we're dating"

he'd also say stuff like "you could come to my room after curfew so we can work on the competition together"... i told him i was a girl and did he forget that or smth and he said smth like, well our dorms are next to each other so sneaking you in shouldnt be too hard

one time we argued cuz he showed up late to a meeting becayse of some girls birthday party ("i couldnt miss HER bday..." he showed up with cake on his face) and i was so mad i left and he told me to wait and started apologizing for like a solid minute while i stood there and then i walked off and i couldve sworn he said something like "youre the best partner ever i appreciate you sm id date you blahblahblah" like what 😭😭😭 at competitions he alternates between ehlping me carry all my stuff and walking around all the time with me and videoing my competition runs, but then completely ignored me at snother one. sometimes we get on calls for hours at night, recently this summer he called me from midnight to 3:30am??? and we yapped about some kinda personal stuff

but i dont get it? we argue all the time to yhe poont where its a team joke and ppl call us a "dysfunctional couple", i found out later in the year that he'd seen 5 girls already. he'll go days without texting me or talking to me irl(that was when school was still going, now its summer) . in second semester he called me "chopped"?... and for a qhile hed call me bitch. he had me saved in his phone as tbat and hed say stuff likw "get me that tape measure, bitch" during our study sessions. and i'd always ask him to stop and it took him weeks to. ut got to the point where my friend noticed and asked me about it, and his friend comforted me because i was upset about it (i was stalked first semester and he used to call me that name, and every time my partner said it it clearly upset me). he'd break stuff just to see me freak out about it and thought it was funny even after i cried for hours after one of his "jokes". he used to say loudly "HI [NAME]!!!!" whenever he saw me and other times we'd just pass eachcpther in the hallway and stare and say nothing. one time he was walking the opposite dorection in the hall and then turned around to walk with me and talk(he was about to be late to a class too..) i began ignoring him saying hi and he'd keep doing iy and i would hear his friends laughing after i walked off. he never reallu took me seriously but i kinda fell hard for him after those first two weeks and i'm so lost. i can't tell if i'm overreacting about all thw stuff he's done. o cant tell if i hate him or am obsessed with him and he's asked me to work with him next year again but i don't know anymore. he got the club leadership position i was supposed to have(im literally the best person in the team...) because the captains saw us arguing and always tjougjt it was my fault or something or just liked him more ig? he did all of those things and then it was me who suffered the consequences. he would say stuff and upset me to tears and i probably looked unhinged to everyone else bc they didnt know context. i'm spplying to college now and i have nothing to show for my work. i'm so mad and i don't know if i hate him because despite everything hes the only partner ive ever completely trusted. and my brain cant shut up and leeps saying, what ifhe still likes me? i dont lnow, i need to stop.is he really as bad as i think? is it just a personality clash? i want to believe so bad that the reason i didnt get that position was because i was incompetent, not because of how i acted while around him. i loved that club so much and i prpbably sound unhinged but it was my passion and now i've lost it