I can't get anyone to use she/her pronouns for me. They always use they/them.

Hiya! So I'm agender, and I do have a very androgynous appearance in many ways. I've never transitioned, I just kinda look androgynous by default. I think most people perceive me as AMAB even though I'm AFAB, for some reason? Which is wild since I literally have long hair and pierced ears. But I'm taller than the average man, and thin and rectangle shaped, so I don't really give strong gender vibes either way.

I only go by she/her pronouns. It doesn't greatly upset me when people use other pronouns, it's just that I've never in my entire life used anything but she/her, because those pronouns feel the most "neutral" to me.

I honestly cannot get anyone to use anything but they/them to me. The only people who seem to naturally call me she/her are my family and my partner. Even my close friends constantly they/them me and then have to apologize.

On MANY occasions, I've corrected acquaintances, and they've said "Oh, I didn't know you went by she/her now! My bad!" Like... thanks but uhh.... I've literally always gone by she/her. I've never, ever used anything else. Lmfao? I have she/her in all my personal social media bios and everything. I don't understand. 😭

It's weird because I feel like most agender people have the opposite problem, they can't get anyone to call them they/them. Meanwhile I'm somehow having the exact opposite experience??? I honestly don't like other pronouns just because like... I'm just me. I'm agender, so my name and pronouns are also agender, no matter how "feminine" they are. If that makes sense?

I don't even make a big deal of being agender. I just kinda do my thing. So it's not like I'm always confusing people by bringing up being agender or whatever.

Part of me is glad that at least people genuinely naturally perceive me as agender! So it's not an insult in any way. It's just so confusing because... Using she/her isn't exactly difficult? Its literally one of the binary pronouns? And it feels almost mean sometimes to be correcting people when they have such good intentions. But it's just. Weird.

I've been wondering if I should just give in and use they/them. I mean, it obviously comes naturally to people! And it's perceived as the "agender pronoun." But... I don't want to? Why should I stop going by she/her just because OTHER people think it's only for women?? Why can't she/her be a gender neutral pronoun??

Idk, does anyone have advice or similar experiences?