AITAH for being mad at my girlfriend for not letting me visit.

I work away from home for 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off and due to unforeseen circumstances 1 week into my shift I ended up with a day off which I was told about on the morning I arrived at work. I decided that I would drive the 3 hour journey home to surprise my girlfriend.

On the way home when I was an hour into the journey we spoke in the phone and she told me I had forgotten about her hospital appointment that morning and she had to get some tests done. I told her that I was coming home to see her and I’d be there in a few hours.

She told me I am not to come see her and that she has plans with her friend who she hadn’t seen for 2 weeks. Her plans were dinner in her home and a long walk with coffee with her friend. I said surely I can stop by and see her for a couple of hours in her flat when her friend was there who I know. She told me not to come see her again.

I traveled home to my city anyway as I have a son from a previous relationship and it would give me a chance to see him for a couple of hours as I miss him when I work away. I informed my girlfriend that I was in her area and did she still not want me to visit, she said not to visit and we have fallen out over this.

She said this is a huge issue and the theme of it is lack of insight and understanding and her friend agrees that it would be weird for me to sit in on their girls dinner.

So AITAH for being annoyed about this or should she have made time for me to stop by and see her whilst her friend was there even for an hour.

I have had to travel back to my place of work the same night and won’t be home for another week.