My mom is pathetic

My mom has been staying with me for a week and I can’t take it anymore. She is pathetic and has every intention of remaining that way.

If anyone would ask her why she was staying with me, she’d reply, “to see my daughter for her birthday”. The truth, however, is that she is here to see a man she has not spoken to in 10 years and I am a side quest.

My mom wants a partner more than anything in this world. Unfortunately for her she is abrasive, loud, mean spirited and mentally unstable - traits men usually are not into. It is no surprise to me that she keeps attracting narcissists who do not have her best interests in mind. When they let her down, like they did this trip, she cries and cries while expecting me to play therapist. This has been our dynamic for years.

I am 34F and frankly do not have it in me to keep doing the same song and dance I have since I was a teenager. I started to retreat into my room for time alone when I simply cannot listen anymore. If she won’t help herself with this lifelong problem, what can I do? If my suggestions or advice is really what she needs, why hasn’t she acted on it in the last 20 years?

She is now leaving early, not because of the heartbreak that has keep her in tears for 6 days, but because I ignore her.

And that suits me just fine.