31 (F4M) The best OA you’ll ever have - seeking someone who can handle the intensity

Here I am again, crawling back to this sub after yet another OA has left me with “I just can’t handle this on top of everything else, it’s not you, it’s me.”

But the thing is, it is me.

I’m amazing. I’m easy to talk to, I’m funny, sweet, charming, warm, kind, and understanding. I’m emotionally invested and mature. I’m complex, nuanced, intelligent, and intense in the best way.

The OAs I pick up keep dropping like flies within about a month. Of course I had to ask myself, “Is it me? Am I the common denominator?” And the answer is yes, just not in the way I thought at first.

Three different friends told me the same thing (and of course they’re biased, but it affirms what I was feeling and thinking.) They all said it’s because people come here expecting something fleeting, something shallow, or at best, something that’s just okay. Lo and behold, they end up with me, and I’m more than any of them bargained for.

So can you handle the intensity? Are you looking for a connection that will exceed your expectations? Do you want to catch feelings? Like, real feelings?

Boys need not apply. This woman needs a man.

I’m hot, I’m a catch, I’m tattooed, I have bright (dyed) red hair, I’m creative, I’m sarcastic, I’m great with banter, I’m fit, and I’m intense. I know nobody goes into these things expecting to end it ~a month later because it’s too much to deal with, but I implore anyone reading this to truly assess whether or not they’re ready for the real deal before sending a response. I’m the real deal. I will be an attentive, caring, and supportive pocket girlfriend. I will be vulnerable and expect the same. I will make time and expect the same.

Eastern time or nearby timezone preferred. With peace and love, the right connection for me is also in shape/cares about their health. Nothing wrong with a dad bod, but I’m just not attracted to them.

Somehow I’m not entirely convinced I’m asking for the impossible…yet. Not sure how many more little, mild heartbreaks it will take until I get it through my thick skull, but until then, RIP my inbox.