Is he getting spam emails or is he lying?
TLDR at the end; My (23F) boyfriend/fiancé (29m) and I share a child together and have been together 2 years. I was watching SLOMW and he keeps making derogatory comments lately about certain pretty women, claiming they probably have an only fans, and that they’re “wh*res”. I asked him why he hates on it so much to which he stated it was trashy (I don’t find it empowering but I don’t care how other people put food on their table). I asked him if he had ever had an account and he said no at first, and then changed his answer to “I probably did a long time ago but I don’t remember”. So, in front of him, I tried to sign in to OF with his typical login credentials, which didn’t work and so I hit ‘forgot password’. A link came through his email to reset it, so I did, and logged in- again, in front of him. Additionally in his emails there was unopened mail from OF stating that there was a new login to his account (on dates that have taken place during our relationship even during my pregnancy) and that some subscriptions for X amount of money were ending. Once I gained access to the account I checked on the payment history and his last payment transactions were from 2021. He asked me to delete the account and so I did. He told me he made the account with his other friends so that they could share it but that he doesn’t and hasn’t wanted part in it in a long time.
I have 3 thoughts from this. 1) he does (did) have an account. Not anymore as he asked me to delete it and I foolishly did. I don’t care what he did before we met but I do care about what he does while we’re together because I consider that cheating. 2) he paid for it in 2021 but there’s no transactions in the duration of our relationship so why would they send emails about new logins and ending subscriptions if he hasn’t paid in 4 years? 3)I’ve already caught him watching girls dance in lingerie while he’s laying right beside me, why should I particularly give him the benefit of the doubt now?
Now I have questions. Can you delete recent payment transaction history from onlyfans? Would they send “new login” or “subscription ending” emails if he wasn’t using it? Is he pulling the wool over my eyes and got me to delete it to get rid of the proof? Am I being gullible? Is he getting spam emails from them or is he lying to my face?
TLDR; boyfriend/fiancé was talking about onlyfans in a way that was kind of telling on himself. Had weird emails stating he logged in recently and that $50 subscriptions were ending but no recent payment transactions on his account. He got me to delete it now I realize I may have made a mistake in deleting it without looking into it further.
Posted Jul 9, 2025, 2:14 AM UTC