Men will be men ba talaga?

I heard my Lola on the phone with her friend, she was bragging about how they’re gonna celebrate the Golden Anniversary (50 years of marriage) with my Lolo.

They’ve been together all her life. Simula daw Grade 2 magkakilala na sila. She was her first boyfriend, first lover, first everything.

Unfortunately, hindi perfect ang marriage nila. Wala naman daw kasing perfect sa mundo.

She endured years of cheating, pagiinom, pagloloko. Kahit nung pagbubuntis niya, wala siya. Ilang taon daw siya naghirap, umiyak, and nagtiis kasi hindi din siya gusto ng matapobreng pamilya ni Lolo, Yet she stayed.

It was a rough life for her, pero nagbago eh. She’s now suffering from arthritis, skin conditions, and she’s unable to care for her self. Si Lolo nag papaligo sa kanya, nagsusubo sakanya ng pagkain minsan, may isang malaking bouquet pa ng ecuadorian roses pag may occasion. Siya naglalaba, nagpplansta and masaya siyang inaalagan niya kami sa bahay. He was the husband material.

He gave us a very privileged life and I’m so grateful for him. He became the dad he never got to be with his sons. I got the best treatment.

Maybe it was guilt? Maybe he realized his mistake?

Men will be men ba talaga? Kailangan bang may pagdaanan na phase where walang hiya ang lalaki at gagawa sila ng makakasira sa relasyon? Yun ang mga question na gusto ko malaman. Will I ever meet a man na hindi gagawa ng makaka sakit sakin?

I heard her, “Nasa babae naman kung gaano kahaba ang pasensya”

What if I don’t want love like that? Paano kung hindi ko kayang sikmurain na lolokohin ako ng taong mahal ko?

She was very strong pero feeling ko hindi ko kakayanin.

If you’re someone like my Lolo, it’s not too late to change. If nagloloko ka man and your lover doesn’t know, stop it. You’ll soon realize how important she is to you.

Don’t waste 30 minutes of your time for a lifetime with someone else.

(I’ve thought about posting this kasi I had a tiny crush on Marco Gallo like kanina lang. After some digging, I found out he cheated on someone before dating H. It was heartbreaking. Instant red flag na tingin ko sakanya)